![]() My advice is to keep a close eye on new friends. Some people are just more likable than others. We will all have our own lines, and they will change over time, and even from person to person. It will depend on your nature, and how often you have trusted and been burned. What is too much, and what is too little? That’s a personal call. However, the people with good intentions might take the opportunity, and use it to impress you. Too little, and the people with bad intentions will take advantage of you. Press too hard and you start to get paranoid. How carefully are you paying attention? Have you checked any of their references? This might be overkill for a casual friend, but if they want money, you might want to be careful, right?Īs usual, it is a question of balance. In addition to the time factor, there is the observation factor. How carefully do you scrutinize someone when you first meet them? How long are they on ‘secret probation’ in your mind, before you decide if they are who you hope or think that they actually are?įor some, the time is likely too short, and for others it is too long. Hopefully, you already do, to some extent. How many times do they have to do things right before we believe that they are respectable and can be trusted? I suppose it depends on how many times you have had your trust betrayed. There are people who match our personal definition of ‘shady’ or otherwise seem disreputable. Unfortunately, it works the other way around as well. We chose to believe our pre-conceived notions, rather than the facts we observed. Despite acting in a manner which showed them to be other than who they claimed to be, they continued to be trusted and respected. The more they match our profile of what a good person is, the harder it will be to ever believe they are something else.Ĭonsider some of the recent news about coaches and other adults in positions of respect and power. Most of us want to trust people, and give them an opportunity. It’s easy to allow ourselves to be swayed by what they look like, how they sound, what their style is, etc. Allowing a person to demonstrate who they really are, and believing them, the first time. It will take quite a bit of convincing.Ĭonversely, if we see someone who looks trustworthy, they may be able to do bad things to us multiple times before we believe who they truly are. ![]() You probably won’t believe that they are a nice person with a poor choice of wardrobe. You meet them walking around in the mall, and you are instantly on your guard. This quote is about believing what a person demonstrates themselves to be, regardless of who they claim they are.Ĭonsider someone who looks like a used car salesman. This quote is about perception, and how difficult it can be to overcome our pre-conceived notions of someone. After they show you their true colors, it might well be the proper look. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.This may be taking the quote a little far, at least at the first meeting. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”Īnd the trade winds soft through the sighing trees.” She will need to prize her tenderness and be able to display it at appropriate times in order to prevent toughness from gaining total authority and to avoid becoming a mirror image of those men who value power above life, and control over love.” “A rose by any other name may smell as sweet, but a woman called by a devaluing name will only be weakened by the misnomer. “The caged bird sings with a fearful trillĪnd his tune is heard on the distant hill for “I know for sure that love saves me and that it is here to save us all.” “Try to be a rainbow in someone’s cloud.” “In diversity there is beauty and there is strength.” And I see myself as a very interested person. Most of the time, I see myself as wanting to know. “I’m considered wise, and sometimes I see myself as knowing. Everything influences each of us, and because of that I try to make sure that my experiences are positive.” ![]() “You are the sum total of everything you’ve ever seen, heard, eaten, smelled, been told, forgot – it’s all there. ![]() “A wise woman wishes to be no one’s enemy a wise woman refuses to be anyone’s victim.” “My great hope is to laugh as much as I cry to get my work done and try to love somebody and have the courage to accept the love in return.” “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.” “It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
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